Dutifulness to Parents and Maintaining Ties of Kinship

Dutifulness to Parents and Maintaining Ties of Kinship

My honorable brothers and sisters in islam, these two are of the major things Islam considered in high esteem. For indeed, no one will devalue them unless they became a source of his regret. They're also of the major sins that one most take heed of.

DUTIFUL TO PARENTS

Allah the Almighty said: 

وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا

Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him alone, and treat parents with the best of kindness. Should one of them, or both, attain old age in your lifetime, do not say “Ugh!” to them (as an indication of complaint or impatience), nor push them away; and always address them in gracious words. Lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy, and say: “My Lord, have mercy on them even as they cared for me in childhood.” (al-Isra 17:23–24). Many a times you can see some with a bankrupt foresight, perhaps liable to lost their Hereafter if they did not redirect their sheep, i simply mean amend their mistakes. reprimanding, rebuking or exchanging words with them. 

 verily, we owe our parents an endless reverence and homage, Almighty magnified their levels such that no one can have entrance to paradise without obeying them, especially for our mothers that prophet SAW mentioned in one authentic narration, says; " Paradise is under the feet  of mothers". Being un-dutiful to parents is of the things Allah SW take serious action right from this world.. you'll never disobey your parents and be in Jannah. If you'll keep performing all sorts of Iba'adats and been un-dutiful to them, you'll be lost. And if Allah wish will spare you to live a successful life or He chooses to taste you a miserable life. So we owe them undeniable respect.

179. Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-As, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The major sins are associating others with Allah, disobeying your parents, killing someone and giving a false oath.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, Ayman, 16, Diyat, 2).
180. Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-As, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “One of the major wrong actions is for a man to abuse his parents.” They asked, “O Messenger of Allah, is it possible for a man to abuse his parents?” He replied, “Yes. He may curse a another man’s father who in turn curses his father, and curse his mother and he in turn curses his mother.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, Adab, 4; Sahih Muslim, Iman, 146

No body will deny the fact that, people now indulge in abusing their brother either out of jokes or serious, thinking that they only accuse or abuses their friends and not their own parents. May Allah forgive us and our parents. AMEEN. 

MAINTAINING THE TIE OF KINSHIP:

Almighty Allah linked us to one another. When we're born, we are the new descendants and members of a particular family, perhaps I'm not the only child they have. As such, we are part of that family which form from the union of father and mother. These our parents are also descendants of a certain family. All these mentioned and even their extensions are said to be one's family. So, Allah the Almighty destined that we have our relatives that we owe visitations and keeping in touch with them with our wealth and kindness which is called; "Tie of kinship". This tie of kinship is a strong relationship Allah (S.W) regards in high estimation. That's why He even mentioned in chapter (47:22) 

ْفَهَلْ عَسَيْتُمْ إِنْ تَوَلَّيْتُمْ أَنْ تُفْسِدُوا فِي الْأَرْضِ وَتُقَطِّعُوا أَرْحَامَكُم. أُولَٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ لَعَنَهُمُ اللَّهُ فَأَصَمَّهُمْ وَأَعْمَىٰ أَبْصَارَهُم                    

"So would you perhaps, if you turned away, cause corruption on earth and sever your [ties of] relationship"??" Those [who do so] are the ones that Allah has cursed, so He deafened them and blinded their vision."  So breaking the tie of kinship stairs the anger of Allah, and as such a servant will receive punishment.  A hadith reported by Bukhari & Muslim. On the authority of Anas bn Malik, Allah's messenger SAW said, " He who likes that his sustenance should be expanded and his age may be lengthened should join the tie of kinship."  

A frightening and long authentic hadith that I'll like to share with us is. Narrated by Huzayfah and Aby Hurayrah. which was in the statement mentioned by prophet SAW that; " and Trust and ties of relationship will be sent forth and will stand on the either sides (left and right) of the SIRAT [i.e the bridge set over Hell fire]." And Allah will send an extreme darkness to submerge all the surrounding that one can't afford to see his front.  So people will be asked to cross over before they get in to Jannah and ALLAH provides hooks that are used to drag those who did not comply to maintain their TIE OF KINSHIP in the world or indulge in betraying AMANAH.

My brothers and sisters, this is part of the repercussion of these two important issues in Islam.

We implore Allah''s refuge from being un-dutiful to our parents, and breaking our tie of kinship. I said this while seeking Allah's forgiveness for you and me, and rest of the believer all our sins and shortcomings. Ask for Allah's forgiveness, He'll sure forgive you, for He's oft-forgiving and most merciful 

Nawawi, Imam. Riyad As-Salihin; The Gardens of the Righteous: A collection of authentic hadiths. Tughra Books Press, Inc. 2014